What’s love got to do with it?

So you meet a guy…at first things are a bit awkward. ..but you soon realise you have so much more in common than you initially thought.

This leads to more meetings..soon you’re laughing at his jokes and he at yours…

You enjoy the same movies, food, music…

You can’t get enough of each other’s company…everything is as it should be; everything is perfect! Right?

Wrong! It always gets complicated when one of you decides to “catch” feelings. You never enter a relationship with the intention of falling in love…but eventually someone does and if the feeling is not reciprocal well…there’s always some drama and the happy moments are gone…

I enjoy talking to people about relationship and dating experiences …friends, colleagues,  strangers…it’s always interesting to learn of other people’s perspectives and learn from their experiences and mistakes.

I think the one constant I’ve found in every relationship story I’ve heard is that things always gets a little complicated when one of the parties thinks they’re in love.

So this caused me to ask the question of myself and others. what’s love got to do with it anyway? Why can’t we learn to just enjoy what we have in a relationship without confusing things by adding “love” to it?

You’re having a great time with that “fine” specimen of a man ladies…he treats you right…cooks for you…everything you’ve ever wanted…but he’s not ready for love…

My advice: keep it to yourself!

The last thing you want in this life is to be happy in love with a person who doesn’t even want to be in love. So if everything is as it should be… what’s love got to do with it?

I’m not saying to be foolish and if someone ain’t doing right by you stay..no…I’m saying enjoy yourself and the person you’re with. Enjoy the experiences of doing things together and enjoying each other’s company and keep the “L” word to yourself until you recognize the other person feels the same and decides to share that with you and at that point you’ll be already there while they’re merely catching up.

So in the meantime…chillax..go slow…have fun and enjoy being with the person you’re with…because as the nursery rhyme goes. ..first comes love…then comes marriage…and that’s when things REALLY gets complicated…LOL

Look out for more relationship/dating tips, stories, experiences and funny dating stories in this space.

Until next time…ENJOY LIFE!