My pussy is not your entitlement!

*This was originally written on May 25th 2019, at 7:07 AM. This was in the draft section*

Men, here’s a news flash for you, my pussy or any woman’s pussy is not your entitlement! You are not deserving of our pussy unless we decide you are, that’s not a you decision, it’s a we decision.

So here’s the thing, I’ve wanted to talk about this subject for quite some time because while dating I’ve observed that men have this sense of entitlement regarding your pussy. Believe it or not, some men believe that if they so much as buy you a drink, they have the right to get into your pants. But here’s the thing about that, I am the owner of said pants, so you’ll first have to show me that you’re deserving of that entry. The pussy doesn’t decide, I do.

So if you’re dating in these modern times I’m sure you’re familiar with the very stupid and immature term, ghosting. If you aren’t let me break it down for you. Ghosting, is the immature act of a woman or man who does not have the balls to tell someone that they’ve been dating, they’re no longer interested. They simply ghost them. In other words, you can be talking to someone you’ve been seeing for weeks (or months) just fine the day before, you may have even gone out with them the day before, and the day after, it’s like they never existed, they disappear, no explanation, no return of calls or texts. I know right, it’s stupid! You would think in these forward thinking times when people are straightforward with their words that they would take the time out to tell someone they’re no longer interested in dating, they’re not. But that’s another, subject for another blog post. Let’s get back to my pussy.

So in case you haven’t figured it out by now, I’ve been ghosted before and every time I am, I revisit conversations to see if I’ve said something I shouldn’t or acted the fool and the majority of the times it points to one thing, I didn’t have sex with them fast enough and they got tired waiting around for me to get there. So here’s the thing, I know men think that all pussys are the same and if I don’t give it up, they’ll just move on to the next one. That may be true, but that still does not make me minimize the value I have for myself and be intimate with someone before I’m ready to. If you’re not willing to wait around for when I’m ready, then you’re not worthy of me and you’ve done me a favor by ghosting me. I’ve met a number of  very nice men, we go out, we have drinks, dinner, but I’ve also met men who don’t want to put in the effort and still expect me to fuck.  Like dude, you show up for dinner plans we made days before and you don’t have a plan where we’re going? Or we only speak when I call you or you send me random texts in the morning? And you think that’s enough work to get into my pants? You think that shows me you’re genuinely interested? Remember I started this conversation by saying the pussy doesn’t decide you’re deserving, I do?  Well I decide you’re deserving when I see you’ve put in the effort to show me you’re genuinely interested in me and you’re not just going through the motions to get my pussy. Just to be clear, that doesn’t mean you have to take me on expensive dinners, or outings (though those are nice) to get into my pants, you simply have to show an effort and interest  that you really are interested in getting to know me, the individual, and I’m not a means to an end.

This is the stance I’ve taken on dating and I’m sticking to it. So maybe I have to kiss a few frogs before I get my prince but I’d rather that because I’m tired of men that  make me feel after the fact, “I wish I could take my sex back.” Until next time, ladies remind these men we don’t owe them a damn thing.